Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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Beattie began drinking at age 12, was a full-blown alcoholic by age 13, and a junkie by 18, even as she graduated from high school with honors. She married a former alcoholic who was also a prominent and respected counselor and had two children with him. Beattie understands being overboard, which helps her throw bestselling lifelines to those still adrift,” said Time Magazine.

I say 'to some degree' as all of the stories had alcoholism set as the main issue that codependency relates to. I finally realized that if I put half as much energy into doing the right thing as I had into doing wrong, I could do anything,” Beattie said. Pvz: Kartais gyvenant su alkoholiku, lyg ir neturinčiu didelių problemų, pavyzdžiui, negeriančiu, nedalyvaujančiu jokioje sveikimo programoje, mūsų "aš" gali būti daug sunkiau nei tada, kai problemos būna baisesnės. This book very gently shows that your not a failure but you do need to work on yourself not the other person.Norint iš viso to išsikrapštyti, jos pagrindinis patarimas yra maždaug toks, kaip patariama gelbstint skęstantį žmogų: jei jus abu bloškia į kokią uolą ar atramą, plaukiantysis turi prisidengti skęstančiuoju, t. Beattie recounts how, when she was leading family support groups, she’d ask the members what they were feeling. She wondered why she was the one responsible for all the housework, lawn work, and keeping their life on track? I realized that I can make decisions and not have to worry if my opinion is what other people may think or want.

Next, the codependent tries to figure out how to cope with a situation that is not their fault and they have no control over. That didn't speak to me, but this book was written for codependent folks who might need that sort of "You're okay!A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

After years of focusing on the other people in their lives, they had no clue what they themselves were feeling. I have learned that I do not need to immerse myself so deeply in someone else’s life that I lose myself. Reflecting/looking back after having read this book, and I do feel very good, and positive after all.

In 2009, Newsweek named Codependent No More one of the four most essential self-help books of all time.