Don't Hold My Head Down

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Kinksters seem to be much better at things like communication, respect and equal distribution of pleasure. I'm a middle aged hetero male who has had a very limited amount of sexual experience, other than straight vanilla.

Etenkin loppua kohden parani huomattavasti, nautin erityisesti rehellisestä kuvauksesta omasta seksuaalisuudesta raskauden jälkeen. Totta kai jokaisen seksuaalisuus on omanlaisensa ja uniikki, ja Holmes nyt löysi hänen seksuaalisuutensa avaimen tällä tavoin, mutta olisin kaivannut vielä vähän jotain toista otetta, ehkä vähän niiden omien löytöjen ja tapojen haastamista. I actually keep a handwritten book journal, where I transcribe favourite quotes from the books that I have read. Mas mete em cima da mesa, principalmente, a urgência em saber o que queremos, em dizer que não e em consentir e aguardar consentimento. I find it hard to sum up how I feel about the book, but I'm inclined to think that there could have been less actual sex and more "about" sex, but that could make it pretty dull to be fair.I would recommend it to anyone regardless of gender, who is in the same boat, their partners, their friends. A refreshingly honest look at the "dull, slightly porny" sex I suspect a lot of single Western women of my generation are having, but not talking about.

I want to make sure to draw attention to and applaud Holmes on her inclusion of writing about motherhood and sex apres giving birth.She talks candidly about her sex life and there's quite a bit of detailed description, but importantly much of it is description of how sex makes the author feel, not just the acts themselves. It's not often that one comes across a work so honest, brave, and filled with a wealth of fascinating facts and invaluable tips about the vessel we live in every single day.

Myöskään muut vähän samaa aihepiiriä sivuavat viime aikoina ilmestyneet kirjat kuten Runkkarin käsikirja tai Himokirja eivät vaan mitenkään tyyliltään viehätä, olen yrittänyt lukea niitä, mutta en päässyt ekaa kymmentä sivua pidemmälle. Holmes hit her mid-thirties and became aware--after a disappointing wank to Internet porn--that she wasn't having nearly as good sex as she wanted. Payments made using National Book Tokens are processed by National Book Tokens Ltd, and you can read their Terms and Conditions here. Heck, we live in a country where the idea of being naked in a German sauna with other people, or stripping to wash at an Icelandic swimming pool might cause people to cancel entire holiday plans, and that's where the wheels come off for me in terms of relevance to how I personally define my interest in sex.

That's fair, and Holmes' whimsical chick-lit writing style emphasizes the mainstream nature of her sexual identity. I suspect that most people have a sex life not unlike mine, but happy to be shouted down if I'm misguided in that. Her broaching of topics often perceived as taboo (hello, anal stimulation and the trauma of an unregretted abortion) can feel brave, but in an overwhelming and more important way feel completely necessary for the continuation of the narrative of the book and the broader societal conversation.

However, I really struggled with the style, which teetered between embarassment and a sort of dumbed down chumminess, making use of added letters, multiple exclamation marks and general "look at me, hihihi, isn't this silly. Tykkäsin siitä, että kymmenien seksiaiheisten kirjojen jälkeen sain tästä uusia ajatuksia kupoliini. Voin toki haastaa tässä itseänikin, että miksi juuri nämä jutut ärsyttivät, mitä ne kertovat minusta. Existing literature on sex is often smutty or clinical (both okay), and Cosmopolitan suggesting women eat donuts off a penis like a kebab might not help everyone feel sexually empowered or liberated. Not really about sex at all - more about the entrenched patriarchal constructs that make it hard for us to enjoy pleasure like men can.I identified very strongly with Lucy's experiences before she went on this journey, and I expect many women will. She talks about her first proper, slow, pleasurable sexual encounter and describes how she cried in the end and thought that she didn't _deserve_ to be treated like that. This book is such a necessary read for every women who ever felt sex was just not as good as it was supposed to be - mainly because of all the acting, and just years and years of women believing they had to satisfy men. A really good and engaging book that more people should read - especially males in Britain/US - to help people be more comfortable with themselves but also in understanding their partners (this book is so much more than a sex diary or tales of exploits) but there is a bit of padding at the end. Taking time over sex is probably the one thing that I and my partner will try to stick to the most, while putting my finger in my anus for one minute a day while in the shower is probably something that I'll pass on, thanks all the same.