What Mothers Do: especially when it looks like nothing

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It is common for narcissistic mothers to compete with their children, especially their own daughters. The narcissistic mother is likely to overvalue her own looks and sexual prowess. Female narcissists exhibit internalized misogyny and often view other females as competition. The daughter is thus looked upon with fury, jealousy,and envy her own offspring is viewed as a threat. But breastfeeding, unfortunately, isn’t always as wonderful as it’s often seen in the movies, or as some mothers claim it to be. Will listen to the always overly descriptive drama like he took my baseball cards or she has more ice cream or it’s not fair that she’s sitting in that seat or I can’t go to school today because I don’t have the cool shoes or insert anything that kids love to argue about and then will apply more wisdom in Solomon in deciding the solution. And sometimes the solution means simply deciding to let them battle it out. Good mothers know when they need a break and take one. Good mothers know when they need a break, but can’t always take one. Good mothers don’t always know when they need a break, and then beat themselves up for saying or doing things all good mothers do when they need a break and don’t get one.

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the basic premise of the book is that mothers do all these things that we don't even really have words to express. she makes a point in the first chapter that we have a litany of words to describe the things mothers do wrong, but very few for what moms do right. the example she gives is we have the words, "negligent" and "over-protective" but no word for "protecting her child in the right amount". It’s not so much what we do or don’t do, but the love and intention behind the things we do and don’t do that matters most. Like any narcissist, the narcissistic mother engages in triangulation manufacturing triangles among her children and even their peers. She destructively compares her children to their peers, teaching them that they fall short in terms of looks, personality, obedient behavior, and accomplishments. She unfairly pits two or more siblings against one another, always asking, Why cant you be more like your sister or your brother? She stirs up competition, drama, and chaos. She might make one child a golden child (doting upon them excessively) while making the other a scapegoat. This form of devaluation can leave a painful imprint; it causes her children to compare themselves to others as a way to evaluate their self-worth. 3. She treats her children as extensions of her.Brumariu, L. E., & Kerns, K. A. (2008). Motherchild attachment and social anxiety symptoms in middle childhood. Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology, 29(5), 393-402. doi:10.1016/j.appdev.2008.06.002 A mother has all the patience in the world to deal with her child. Whenever she needs it, nature endows her with this quality. They understand that slammed doors I hate you’s times of storming about and normal kids stuff are normal. And deep down moms know that they’re doing something right – setting limits – and that someday those kids will remember that mom fought for them. Good mothers never yell at their children. Good mothers yell at their children and then apologize for losing their patience. Good mothers yell at their children and then don’t apologize because occasionally kids need to know they’ve crossed a line, dammit. Being a mum IS a full-time job, it has emerged – after a study found the average mother devotes a staggering 57 hours a week to tasks such as cooking, cleaning, washing and playing nurse to the family. The research found that typically a mum carries out 34 tasks per day, a grand total of 238 each wee k.

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Once we become mothers, we also develop new relationships with one another. The way we relate to one another is crucial. The isolation that so many mothers describe is not necessary. this is the best "parenting" book i have ever read. it is unique in that the author doesn't tell you what you should do. instead the book is all about the things mothers do that frequently do not even have an adequate vocabulary to describe them. it is more: you are probably already doing this to some degree and i am just writing it down.Have you ever spent all day looking after your baby or young child - and ended up feeling that you have 'done nothing all day'? Do you sometimes find it hard to feel pleased with what you are doing, and tell yourself you should achieve more with your time? Maybe it's because you can't see how much you are doing already. A woman who becomes a mother protects her little ones and learns to defend them from everything and everyone. If by tidying up the house you think you’ve put things in their place, wait for a mother to come by and display her judgment. You’ll observe that she achieves a balance and proportion in the arrangement of things that only a mathematical equation can unravel. One of the most powerful bits of the book for me was about the language used to describe mothering. The author describes the way a mother might notice something seems wrong with her baby and spend time carefully considering what might be wrong. But then she mentions her concerns to someone else and all too often they reply that she must ‘stop worrying so much’ as if she has been stupid to waste her time thinking about the concern. Because we don’t have a word to describe the kind of careful, intelligent concern a mother feels towards to her baby, the word ‘worry’ is used, which implies that her concern is pointless or unnecessary. This can leave her feeling belittled or embarrassed instead of feeling proud that she has taken such care over something that she notices affects her baby.

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The narcissistic mother is not unlike any other narcissist in that she feels entitled to have her way and endures narcissistic injury when this sense of superiority is questioned or threatened in any way. As a result, her emotions tend to be a psychological rollercoaster from start to finish. From the sudden outbursts of rage when you fail to obey her demands to the abrupt love-bombing which occurs when she needs something from her children, there is little consistency in a household with a narcissistic mother. Her children walk on eggshells every day, fearful of encountering their mothers rage and punishment. 8. Emotionally invalidates, guilt-trips and gaslights her children.

Moms breastfeed even if it’s painful, yes, because breast milk is the best food a child can receive. The word economy comes from the Greek “oikos” which means household and from “nomos”, administration. The two come together as oikonomos, which strictly speaking means the administration of the household. Mothers are undoubtedly the greatest economists. And their work is invaluable in the support and maintenance of the household and, therefore, of society as a whole.