Good Inside: The new Sunday Times bestselling gentle parenting guide for fans of Philippa Perry

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Developing a close, considerate, caring relationship with your child based on mutual respect is probably the primary indicator of whether you will have a successful outcome.

Good Inside Summary of Key Ideas and Review - Blinkist Good Inside Summary of Key Ideas and Review - Blinkist

Es vēlos, lai mans bērns spētu tikt galā ar visu, ko pasaule liek viņam priekšā. Es vēlētos, kaut viņš justos atbalstīts grūtos brīžos, esot vēl maziņš, lai varētu sevi atbalstīt pieaugot. From this perspective, the author offers tangible examples and scenarios to help parents interact with their children in more helpful ways. As a parent, your first goal is safety. If you need to physically remove the child or restrain them, that’s part of your job. Hold the boundaries. Say to your child, I won’t let you hit your sister. The words I won’t let you are powerful because they tell your child that they can count on you. That you’re a safe person who’ll keep them and others safe. Next, you need to accept the fundamental truth that two things can be true at the same time. Even if the two things don’t necessarily get along with each other. For instance, your child wants ice cream for breakfast, and you don’t allow them to have ice cream for breakfast. When you allow both things to be true, you won’t feel the need to completely change your child’s feelings. To learn more about this book and how it can help you transform your parenting experience, read on for a comprehensive summary and review of its main ideas and strategies.There’s one question I hear from parents more than any other: Is it too late? Have I messed up my child? My answer is always No. When we focus on what’s under the surface, when we give children what they need to be less combustible inside, their behavior will appear less explosive on the outside. By understanding what motivates behavior, we can help kids build resilience and regulate emotions, which will inevitably lead to behavioral changes.” Most generous interpretation Proverbs 29:15 - The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. Frustration intolerance, crying, and perfectionism are also about controlling the environment. Your goal isn’t to help get your child out of these feelings, but rather to help your child continue to progress through them. It’s good for a child to be able to continue to work even in the midst of a certain amount of frustration. Sit with your child, share stories of your own experiences, and help them feel safe to be in their feelings. Embrace the multiplicity of your roles as a parent. You can be fun and authoritative at the same time. You should be many things at once for your child. Understand when your child is having an unformulated experience (like listening to a vacuum for the first time and not knowing what its purpose is and being afraid). You would never dismiss an adult’s feelings of fear and anxiety so why is it normalized to do this with a child? Their feelings and thoughts are just as real and go unregulated meaning they are in even more need of compassion and connection constantly.

Good Inside with Dr. Becky on Apple Podcasts ‎Good Inside with Dr. Becky on Apple Podcasts

To teach resilience, you need certain capabilities like empathy, listening, acceptance, and presence. You need to be able to help your child identify their strengths and learn to solve problems on their own. Here’s the hard part – to accomplish what you want for your child, you also have to treat yourself with the same love and respect. Cenšoties otru pārliecināt, mums prātā ir tikai viens mērķis: pierādīt savu taisnību. Taču tam ir nepatīkamas sekas, jo otrs cilvēks jūtas nepamanīts un nesadzirdēts, un rezultātā lielākā daļa cilvēku noskaņojas kaujinieciski un dusmojas, jo rodas sajūta, ka otrs nepieņem viņa pasaules redzējumu vai apšauba viņa vērtību. Jušanās nepamanītam un nesadzirdētam padara saiknes izveidošanu neiespējamu. K, well I’m a parent of three. Here’s how this would go down with my fearful middle kid. He doesn’t want to go in to the birthday party. I validate and reflect his emotions. Now he is convinced that it's scary, since I’m not providing guidance that it’s not. He continues to refuse to go in. In fact, the first thing you need to do when situations get tough is take a breath and choose the most generous interpretation or MGI of the situation. Holding on to the MGI helps you approach your child with compassion and a desire to understand, rather than jumping to anger and blame. Once safety is accomplished, connect with your child. Get to the root of why they lost control and help them understand. Don’t forget to tell the truth.In part three, Kennedy offers strategies for navigating common parenting challenges, such as tantrums, defiance, and sibling rivalry. Kennedy emphasizes the importance of consistency, communication, and setting clear boundaries. She also offers strategies for managing difficult emotions, such as anger and guilt. Kennedy stresses the importance of seeking support from friends, family, and professionals when needed. Conclusion Resilience isn’t about getting the outcome you want. Remember, your job is to hold boundaries, not control your child’s feelings. Sometimes you just have to sit through the tantrum, and that’s okay. Yes, it makes sense to treat kids like humans, but if you are saying that children process things differently from adults, stop saying that the way you would feel when you heard a certain statement is obviously how a kid would also feel. And don't assume that all adults react to things the same way! (ha the coffeeshop example). I usually don’t read parenting books so I can’t be a good judge of what’s considered the best but to me this is hands down the best parenting book I’ve read and will probably read. Glad I have a copy for myself to refer to again and again. Her principles resonate so much with what I hope to be as a parent and her examples and scripts were spot on. I’ve had experiences using them already and if anything it just helps me be more calm and grounded as a parent. I came away with a much better experience. But maybe parenting shouldn’t revolve around traditional discipline methods and charts. And this summary is here to prove it.